Personal Growth

Shifting How You Respond To Everyday Inconveniences Impoliteness and Slights

From everyday rudeness to outright prejudice, as frustrating as these things are, we cannot let our experience of them trigger us to the point that we lose ourselves by how we respond. You probably hear people explain away bad behavior all the time with the “They triggered me” excuse. You get the sense that they truly believe they had no control over their response. And we see videos of midair meltdowns where people resort to…

If you have a poor self-image, there are lot of people to blame

Many mindset experts will tell you that your self-image is a construct of the thoughts you think. By constantly thinking negative opinions about yourself, you create a poor self-image. While that is definitely true, I wish that these experts would also help people understand the roots of their negative opinions. Studies show that much of what we think about ourselves is based on ideas planted in childhood. Children who are fed negative opinions about themselves…

Give your mother the gift of forgiveness this Mothers Day

Not all fractured mother-daughter relationships can be mended, I get that. But if you and your mother choose to be in each other’s lives, consider what it’s costing you to carry on a toxic relationship that never gets better. This Mothers Day, consider giving your imperfect mother the gift of forgiveness. When your mother’s actions (or inactions) created pain in childhood, the effects usually stay with you into adulthood and forgiveness can feel impossible. How…

beat social anxiety
10 Habits to beat social anxiety

Everything we want involves people. So, we can’t let social anxiety get the best of us. But if you’re shy or a reluctant socializer, how do you put yourself out there without feeling awkward and anxious? With practice. You practice habits and model behaviors that will help you beat social anxiety. As with all habits, we have to build them before we need them. So, I’ve detailed some ideas to help you through this process.…

Forget willpower! Rely on these habits instead

John Wooden, the renowned basketball coach once said, “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.  This advice beautifully captures how I want you to think about willpower after reading this post. Another takeaway I’m hoping you have is that we’re all beginners when we start anything. By virtue of being a beginner, you’re going to suck before you get better. That includes how much willpower (a skill) you have.…