Using poetry and spoken-word, Prince Ea shares some dope concepts on his channel and in this video where he talks about a topic that’s on brand for us and one of our favorite vurbs: challenging your self-perception.
He is using a method we refer to in coaching as “re-framing” to give anyone who suffers from depression a new way to see themselves–as separate from their condition.
Re-framing can shake loose many ridiculous hangups and beliefs that make us live smaller than we are. It can create shifts in consciousness and self-perception.
Depression comes and goes, says Prince Ea, and because you are greater than anything that comes and goes… because YOU are constant, YOU are not depressed.
The takeaway from this piece is that the “feeling” of depression can be real, but you are YOU; you’re not your mood.
Are you suffering from depression? Send a request to firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d like us to put together a challenge or develop more content on this topic. With enough interest, we’ll run a 3-month campaign led by a therapist and with plenty of ideas and strategies to get you out of your head and into your life.
In the meantime, here are some Vurb ideas you can start using now:
- Exercise daily. Think of exercise as an anti-depressant. If you’ve got insurance or the funds to, hire someone to coach you for 4 months as it may be the only way a depressed person is going to get the drive to go.
- Do yoga. Several poses such as the headstand and other inversion poses are greatly beneficial for mental and emotional well-being. Please be sure to work with an expert (take some classes) to learn the safe beginner-friendly ways to do these poses, as some can be tricky.
- Take classes and do things you enjoy. Once you work up the desire to be around people, take classes and do fewer things alone.
- Spend 20-30 minutes outside every day. This can be part of your exercise plan, when you take a walk, for example.
- Get a pet. Something to care about besides yourself is helpful, plus, pets give you unconditional love.
- Consider activism therapy. Volunteering and helping others help sets you up to be part of something bigger. This can give you a new perspective on your own life and the choices you have.
- Read the Mood Cure. Many diets help promote better moods and Julia Ross bestseller shows you how to use nutritional therapy, if not to cure, then certainly as part of your long-term support.
- Use self-awareness to identify the root cause of your condition. Most sufferers think depression is incurable, that the various forms of depression are due to chemical reactions going on inside us for which there is no cure. Nothing could be further from the truth. So much of our lifestyle habits, unhealed and unacknowledged trauma, chronic stress, lack of social support and a feeling of belonging
This is the number one thing I want to share about the disease: Depression is a f*cking liar. Almost everything your depressed mind tells you is a lie. Messages like these can seem real, and if you feed into them and don’t challenge your thoughts, you won’t get better:
- I don’t like people.
- People suck.
- I hate exercise.
- Nothing ever changes.
- If only my mother/ father/ whoever had supported and loved me.
- I’m a loser because I feel this way.
Look at depression like you would an abusive partner who is trying to keep you around by telling you no one will love you if you ever leave him/her.
No, you can’t fake positivity with this illness, but you can ACT positively. You can seek out support groups because that’s a positive step. You can start working on one habit at a time–a regular bedtime routine, for example. There are over a hundred things you can do, but it is harder to motivate yourself without some type of help.
I’m not a fan of taking drugs myself and haven’t taken pharmaceuticals for even pain in many many years, but this is how I feel about them: Sometimes you just got to.
In the case of depression, drugs often help and is a way of keeping yourself in the game. If by taking anti-depressants for say 6-8 months, they help you regain the emotional energy to do the other things that will fix the underlying problem (let’s say that problem is loneliness), then it’s absolutely worth it to take them. Think of them as a way to stay in the game while you seek a better long term solution.