I struggled with career uncertainties for years until I landed in a field I love. So I can relate to the angst many of you feel early in your careers, and sometimes, many years later. Being a lifestylist, I now use a lot of my natural skills and strengths. I also get to explore my interests and thanks to my career, I’m growing as a person in ways I wouldn’t have done doing something else. Finding the best career for you can be a truly impactful thing! I know from experience that it can help you grow as a person.
Ask the Who am I? question
It took me getting into personal development before I could answer this question. It’s an important question to ask yourself before you can find your career fit. I have two simple methods that anyone can use to answer this question for themselves.
The first is the “What I love” method, and it’s what pointed me in the direction of my perfect career. I thought about what I’ve always loved and what came naturally to me. Decorating and lifestyle ALWAYS excited me. My first magazine subscription (when I was in high school) was Self Magazine. I would read every issue cover to cover. I’ve also always loved philosophy and learning how things and human nature work. Temperament-wise, I can be lazy. A nice way of putting that is to say I’m cerebral but in all honesty, I hate basic work. I need a little excitement and variety in my work day.
The second method is what I call the “What I hate” method. My advice: when you don’t know who you are, start with who you know you’re not. The polar opposite of what we’re against is often who we are. An artist friend once shared with me that just the thought of working in an office or for a corporation makes him feel stressed. Actually, she said it makes her break out in hives. Make a list of things you know you would dislike in your work life and write down their opposites. Then consider your temperament (your natural strengths and drawbacks).
One of the best things I discovered along the way to finding my niche, is that you can create your own career. You do that these days by drilling down—niching, You want to find a fit with your personality, values, interests, and strengths. The goal here is to use as much of yourself as you can in your work.
Once I did the “What I love” exercise, I began to think about what would bring me the most fulfillment. After exploring a few career options including psychotherapy, I landed on life coaching. I love encouraging people to achieve their goals and I love supporting others to emotional health. Then by niching, I’m now a lifestylist. It’s still in the personal development field and is a specialized life coach. A lifestylist is someone who promotes positive lifestyle habits and helps people incorporate them.
The career that’s right for you may not even exist yet, but by drilling down, you can create a whole new field or make your own stamp on an existing one. And you can call yourself a lifestylist.
After interviewing people who found their own career fit, and from my own experience, here’s what stands out as things perfect careers have.
- Your perfect career utilizes a lot of YOU and gets you excited on multiple levels.
- Many of the skills required for that career comes easily to you.
- They align with your values and your temperament and is something you enjoy doing.
- If the money is good, that’s great, but that shouldn’t be the main criteria for choosing your ideal career.
- If it also helps other people — or could potentially — you’re going to be successful!
I also love Life Coach Abbi J’s approach to finding your perfect career and wanted to share that with you. She has some great advice on the topic.
Abbi Winslow, Utah Life Coach, @ajlifehacks_
We agree, having a career is important but finding fulfillment in work is even better. Hope you find that too, my friends.