A few years ago I stopped making resolutions and began focusing on getting more of whatever I’ve been missing. One year it was more family time that I needed, so I focused on getting more of that. In other years, it was more sleep or to work on my digestion. Practical stuff.
This year, it was harder to figure out what I needed. For starters, my list of needs was fairly long. I needed more sleep, for sure. I wanted to feel safe again. My hair was looking parched and in desperate need of a hairdresser (an essential worker, if you ask me). And I desperately needed more hugs!
A couple of days into 2021 and it hit me that what I needed most was to be more positive. Positivity has been a focus of mine for years, but I lost sight of it in 2020. Instead, I bitched about my hair, physical isolation, the trips I couldn’t take, social activities I missed, people I couldn’t see, and on and on.
If you can relate, join me in doing things to help you feel better emotionally, to feel lighter spiritually, and to make sure we end 2021 feeling stronger mentally.
Vurb’s 2021 Positive Living Challenge
Choose three things from this list and do them all year. I guarantee you that if you do, you will end 2021 feeling more positive than you have in a while.
No willpower or gym equipment needed.
1. Wear Fragrance Every Day
Wearing fragrance is a natural mood lifter and an easy way to live a more positive life this year. Studies show that wearing fragrances amplifies your happiness and makes you more attractive to other people (including potential partners). If you have a favorite scent, why not add a new formulation of it (a body wash, lotion, or mist) for a layered effect. Those of you who prefer natural scents can make your own using essential oils or check out a natural fragrance brand like IME Naturals.
2. Enjoy More Simple Pleasures
While the best things in life are not always free, there are a ton of things that are or are close enough. Think nestling under scented bed linen (love Meyer’s Fabric Softener for this!). Eating a decadent dessert that you drove 90 minutes for, enjoying more sunsets in the evenings and stargazing at night, taking a dip in the ocean, walking barefoot on the beach, driving with the windows down, laying on your bae’s chest, or enjoying a good book.
3. Get Outside More
Science has spoken: being in nature decreases stress, makes you happier and kinder. In fact, being outdoors is up there on the list of instant mood lifters. Because it boosts concentration and creativity, getting enough sunlight and enjoying nature will even improve your work life. But after being locked away for much of 2020, do I even need to coax you out of the house?
4. Eliminate A Headache From Your Life
I just made the decision to have the closure on a kitchen cabinet fixed professionally. It takes so much effort to shut and my landlord’s fix was no fix at all. As soon as I decided to fix that headache, I swear, I immediately felt lighter. Each time I have erased one of these mini-stressors for good, I’m reminded of all the little things we put up with when we could easily do something about them.
For 2021, I say, wave goodbye to one of your mundane chores, fix a broken item, or make a taxing issue easier. If April 15th and preparing your taxes is always a stressful time for you, for example, maybe this is the year to buy that Neat Receipt scanner. Try a service like AutoEntry or an app that organizes your spending. I’ve been using the Mint app for years, and it helps a lot–as long as I make all purchases with my Debit/Credit card so that all my spending hits the app. Then, I sit down once a week to make sure Mint used the correct categorization for my purchases. Someone I know uses an accordion folder as his tax receipt filling system, he keeps the folder in the car. He drops his receipts in the folder so they never make it inside his apartment, where he’s known to forget to file them.
5. Get 30 Minutes More Sleep
Did you know that we need more sleep during the winter and when we’re under stress? I sure didn’t. With my usual sleep routine, I had been feeling off during the day. I chalked it up to stress and everything but sleep until I learned that our sleep needs can change. Sure enough, when in December I had a few more hours of sleep, I felt more rested and less stressed during the day. 30 minutes more sleep per night is all most of us need to help us make 2021 a more positive year.
6. Upgrade Your Wardrobe
By spending no money at all, if you don’t want to, you can upgrade your wardrobe in 2021. Purge your closet of anything that is wornout and dingy. Bid farewell to clothes that you haven’t worn in years because they no longer fit and ditch anything that you don’t feel absolutely great in. This simple wardrobe upgrade will help you feel better about yourself — no retail therapy needed.
If you have a dingy tee or item of clothing that you love or that has sentimental value, consider taking a picture of yourself in it, or, hanging it up as art, or re-purposing it as DIY project.
7. Develop A Talent/Learn A Skill
If there is something you’re good at, guess what? Doing more of it is going to make you feel amazing, fulfilled, and positive. If you’re a good cook, writer, DJ, or illustrator when you do these things, you become more of yourself. We sculpt ourselves and define our existence on earth when we develop our talents. This year, invest in your growth by seeking to learn from those who have a skill or talent you want to develop. If you’re a talented cook, take a cooking class, throw monthly dinner parties, and in other ways, develop that skill and share it with the world.
8. Use Daily Affirmations
Affirmations help to quiet the roommate living inside our heads. That chatter when it’s mostly negative is obviously affecting your vibe. Check out A Year of Positive Thinking by Cyndie Spiegel for a perpetual calendar to help you start your days on a happier note. Two others I like are 365 Inspiring Women Quotes from the TF Paper Goods shop on Etsy, and Meditations on Self-Love by Laurasia Mattingly.
9. Get Yourself A Hammock!
The cool-house accessory of the moment has got to be a hammock. I’ve seen them replace couches, used for tasks from working on a laptop to relaxing. They totally change the energy in your space and will definitely bring more positivity into your home and into your life.
It’s not just our self-talk but also what we focus on that has gotten more and more negative. Meditation has been shown to produce more positive self-talk, less worrying about the past and future, and greater emotional strength. Because although some worrying and rumination can be helpful, most of the time, we’re replaying the say worries, telling ourselves the same tales, and doing nothing about what we think about. Meditation will help you to flip the script and create another important shift in your life this year—help you to focus more on what is good and truly important.
11. Talk It Out
You’ve been “dealing” on your own, holding it together with a smile and positive thoughts, but could you use someone to talk to about it? Having an ongoing source of emotional support helps us to feel anchored and less burdened. This year, find a group, a therapist, or other ways to express feelings you’re bottling up. And even if your therapist is not the best there is, just being able to let out your frustrations or voice a thought you’ve been mulling over, will be better for your emotional health. Because it will help you emotionally, you’re going to feel more positive after a year of unburdening.
12. Get a Plant for Your Desk or Workspace
I mentioned above that being in nature helps us concentrate and where else could you use help concentrating than at work? Studies show that tasks performed when we’re under the calming influence of nature are performed better and with greater accuracy. Scientific studies have shown that having plants in your workspace will bring a different, positive, kind of atmosphere to your work area.
13. Add Dance To Your Exercise Routine
I haven’t watched “Dancing With The Stars” in years, but I would bet any amount of money that the celebrities still say something like “dance has opened up my life” when their time on the show is up. If you’ve been a yoga girl, try a dance class instead or in addition to it and make dance part of your exercise routine. Dance brings us joy, so this year, get those feet of yours tapping.
14. Go Somewhere Special/Memorable
Although we’re not sure when plane travel will be back to normal, I bet you can find memorable destinations within driving distance from you. I’m a big fan of doing something special once a year because these special events help to put our painful pasts in the rearview mirror. Find a local ski resort, an epic destination like The Grand Canyon, or somewhere memorable as your highlight for this year.
15. Commit to a Cause or Issue You Care About
Liking a post about social justice, climate change, violence against women, or body positivity is great, but you know what is even better? Making a deeper commitment to one of these issues, or learning more about how to get involved in your local government and community. Commit a whole year to Project X, and I swear, you’re going to feel like you lived a fuller life. You’re going to end 2021, feeling more connected.
Christine is a Life Strategist living in Los Angeles. Using systems, routines, and personalized methods, she can help almost anyone hack their mind and life for more joy and greater productivity.