Our inner dialogue determines how comfortable we are speaking up and expressing ourselves. And as you might suspect, being too much in our heads makes us less comfortable.
You’ll notice that engaging people are at ease with new people. Their body language is open, they look people in the eye and appear “present.”
If you’re working on being more engaging, Charlie Houpert from Charisma on Command, has six mindset shifts to help you open up and be yourself. As Charlie puts it…
When you get the mindsets firmly set in place, all of those things that are surface-level [tonality, eye-contact, etc.] tend to just flow easily.
PRACTICE BEING PRESENT
Being present takes time and practice if you’re not used to it. You will need to recondition your mind slowly over time–and this is where our behavior helps.