I learned about Dr. Shefali and conscious parenting when she made what I think was her first Oprah Show appearance. Since then, I’ve been telling friends with kids, “You’ve got to read this book called ‘The Conscious Parent!”‘ And of course, once I started this digital personal development space, I had to continue the discussion here.
How we’re parented sets the foundation for who we become. So although I’m not a parent myself, I know firsthand the effects of ineffective parenting and since becoming a meditationer, I know how effective it is in helping us manage stress and be more mindful so it stands to reason, it will help parents be more effective at their job.
I’m not complaining about my childhood when I say this, but a lot of the standard Jamaican parenting I had was not the best thing for me: Speak when you’re spoken to. Proper language at the dinner table. Sit straight. Walk erect… It wasn’t the best thing for someone as curious and non-traditional as me.
Bless their hearts, they didn’t know this, but my curiosity was and is a good thing. It’s a huge part of who I am, and they almost succeeded in stamping it out of me. Almost.
So of course, what stood out most from that Oprah interview with Dr. Shefali was when she said something to this effect:
…by trying to control our kids, we may miss who they are meant to be.
I love the dialogue that Dr. Shefali has helped to start and I’m so happy to see more and more people embracing the concept of conscious parenting… without my help, I might add.
Meditation makes you a conscious parent and from watching Mama Kat(rine) on her YouTube channel you see firsthand the calming presence she brings to the role. Science has confirmed that this calm is especially soothing for babies and beneficial to young children’s development. It helps Mama Kat be a peaceful respectful presence for her child, among other benefits that makes her a better parent.
And can you believe how chill her son Olyn was during the taping?
Meditation has become my drug of choice and truth be told, I’ve become a straight-up drug pusher so I recommend it for many efforts. It’s a great study aid, it is a wonderful tool for emotional eaters, and CEOs use it to help them be better leaders. There is no job more important and no effort more worthwhile than parenting and so, yes, here I go, I recommend that every parent have a meditation or gratitude practice.
You’ll be doing mankind a favor, and the child you raise will become a more focused, productive and successful teenager and adult.