Today, I want to share The School of Life‘s Why We Eat Too Much video. We’re hugely invested in the idea that the cause of obesity lies with our diet, they say, and our problem can be solved with kale, apple soup, and other such products.
The real cause of obesity, they argue, has nothing to do with food. Our problem is emotional under-nourishment.
We will start to eat less when we feel more connected, more understood and more in touch with our feelings.
When I first started coaching, I worked with emotional eaters. Within a few months, I was wondering whether I had made another bad career decision; there were a handful of clients that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t help. Week after week, these, what I call, less motivated clients, had trouble following through on assignments. They would have different (but really the same) excuses for why they hadn’t done assignments THEY helped to prepare, that they agreed to, and that would have taken as little as 10 minutes a day to complete.
My role as their coach, wasn’t to help them lose pounds and inches, but to get to the root of their overeating so they could lose it for good. Weekly assignments were centered around self-discovery exercises (interviewing family members and keeping a food/emotion diary, for example). We were working on getting to the bottom of what’s driving their hunger so we could address those issues.
The clients did a much better job with the self-care and beauty assignments I gave them, but I could tell they were definitely resisting the What’s Eating Me part of the program.
Does any of this resonate for you?
Watch as The School of Life tries to help you understand why we eat to excess. It has nothing to do food, and therefore trying to change our diet isn’t necessarily, the most logical place to focus our efforts.
We eat too much when what we’re really hungry for isn’t available.